Dear Fellow Life Traveller,
While having a conversation with a friend she mentioned, we were orphaned parents 22 years ago… It made me stop for a moment. Its more usual to hear about orphaned children however it made me wonder. How come we dont speak of what parents go through and experience?
As I get older, I realize that what I had possibly wished for and what is actually showing up has been poles apart. Without any question, not a single parent gets it ‘right’! That is a fact even the ones (including myself) who thought I would – I did not. I screwed up however how was I to get it right? Carrying the generational patterns, my mother leaving when I was 3 years old, my father being absent and growing up all over the map? How was it possible I would be a 98%?
So does that mean it’s okay for grown-up kids to treat you like they own you? as and when they feel like it and yet on the other hand butt you out of their lives? Nope its not and after feeling orphaned as kids leave home the least would be to have respect for your parent/s regardless…What are your thoughts? especially if you have younger kids now as you prepare to let them go? Sometimes support and care is misconstrued …………..
The effective methodologies I offer require openness, engagement, and participation to heal. The process is transformational and liberating! No Better time than NOW to do the inner work! Disrupt your life and find your peace and joy!
Thank you for reading. May you have an adventurous 2023 filled with all the colors of a rainbow!