Dear Fellow Life Traveller,
Trauma is so commonly used and so misunderstood. Here is the dictionary version ‘a deeply distressing or disturbing experience’. We ACKNOWLEDGE and accept that mental health and therapy are necessary and helpful to deal with generational, familial, societal, economic, traditional, cultural, and religious conditioning.
It is essential to differentiate between trauma and unpleasant life experiences. I get a lot of clients calling certain experiences traumatic when they were unpleasant, unhealthy patterns, misunderstandings, what they did not want, feeling misunderstood, or embarrassed. These are not ‘trauma’ and we need to demystify and use appropriate words. The reason why its important to examine the choice of words and language is if all experiences are traumatizing we lose track of the depth of healing required. The other aspect is it’s then so easy to blame and mostly blame parents and families. Often children don’t get what they want or get what they don’t want, or see parents fighting and arguing and so on…keeping a perspective means understanding that the actual person who suffered was the mother or sibling and you as the child experienced secondarily. Then you felt helpless, confused, and lost. It is essential to ensure this clarity.
It is also important to realize that blaming your parents and the past will NOT help one heal. Blame does not heal. Taking responsibility for the ‘now’ and accepting. healing and overcoming is what my process offers.
The effective methodologies I offer require openness, engagement, and participation to heal. The process is transformational and liberating! There is no better time than NOW to do the inner work! Disrupt your life and find your peace and joy!
Thank you for reading.