How many times do we ask ourselves ‘Why is this happening to me???’
Or ‘ It won’t happen to me’ ‘It can’t happen to me’!!!
We keep convincing ourselves that the ‘unwanted’ and ‘painful’ experiences do not belong to us, must not happen to us nor do we deserve them.
Part of the reason we do this is because we are already carrying so much unresolved stuff and the fear of yet another challenge is too much to bear!
Another reason is because we are not taught how to handle problems. This may sound simple however it is not.
I don’t remember being told what to do or shown how to approach problems as a child. Do you? I recall whoever was experiencing an issue being unable to handle, in denial, or shock or unable to handle.
It was all trial and error and even now I have days where I sometimes still go into survival mode as this is a deep part of our programming.
We also desperately ‘wish’ nothing goes wrong as we don’t deserve it…. I so empathize with each one of us. Life is not easy however we also make it more challenging when we do not accept the realities that show up.
I have had some unbelievable surprises and shocks that have made no logical sense whatsoever.
What helped me was to learn to ‘Accept’ that this was what I had to experience. The important thing was to understand what I had to learn, stop, give up, unplug or move on from. In every instance I had a choice, a choice on how I would deal with each situation and find a resolution or not! Sometimes there is no explanation, justification or reason…it just is! We have to let things ‘be’ and accept.
Acceptance is such a gift as it bears no blame, no sorrow nor guilt and definitely no SHAME!